Romantic evening in sight or simple desire to rekindle the flame in your couple? Why not be tempted by the Tantric massage, this millennial practice today revisited for modern couples. Long haloed by mystery, tantrism is much more than a sensual massage: it is a connection art which mixes breathing, conscious touch and mutual confidence. 

Tantric massage, what is it?

Often wrongly associated with a simple erotic massage, the Tantric massage draws its origins from the Indian spiritual tradition of Tantra. It aims to arouse senses and sexual energy in a conscious and respectful way. Contrary to popular belief, it is a practice More spiritual than purely sexual, a form of two meditation where each caress invites mindfulness. The goal is not the immediate performance or research of pleasure, but The deep connection Between the partners, in the present moment. Practiced in a benevolent setting, tantric massage allows Reconnect to his body and his senses, to awaken a sensuality sometimes suffocated by daily stress, and to strengthen intimacy and confidence within the couple.

Before you start: prepare the ritual

To make this massage for a magical moment, the preparation is essential. This is to create a ritual Both sacred and sensual where you can both confidently abandon yourself. Here's how to prepare the field:

A bewitching atmosphere

A tantric massage cannot be improvised on a corner of the sofa in broad daylight. Take the time to transform space into a Warm and intimate cocoon dedicated to your session.

Light and decor

Prefer a sifted light: turn off the ceiling lights that are too lively and light a few candles scattered in the room. Their dancing light immediately creates a cozy atmosphere conducive to relaxation and sensuality. Store the space so that no everyday object comes to break the magic of the moment - a clear floor, a bed (or a futon on the ground) prepared with soft and clean sheets, possibly protected by a towel for oil. Make sure the room is good hot, so that no one stalls cold once. A clean, comfortable and reassuring decor will allow everyone to feel comfortable.

Music and scents

Wrap your senses thanks to a soothing sound background. Prepare a Sweet and sensual playlist : Relaxing music, sounds of nature or even discreet tantric mantras in the background. The sound will help your minds to escape and refocus on the present moment. On the scent side, why not diffuse a light intoxicating fragrance ? Some scented candles or a touch of vanilla incense, sandalwood or ylang-ylang can subtly hire the air without being heady. Well -chosen scents stimulate the emotional brain and participate in theAwakening of the senses. Simply be sure that neither the music nor the perfume take over: they must remain discreet, like a murmur of room.

The choice of massage oil, your ally

A quality massage oil will be your best ally for this tantric journey. Preferably opt for a natural oil, organic if possible, with a silky texture that slides well on the skin. Sweet almond, fractional coconut or jojoba oils are excellent basic choices because they feed the skin while offering a velvety touch. You can add a few drops of essential oil to aphrodisiac and relaxing virtues (for example jasmine, rose or ylang-ylang) in order to flavor the experience and stimulate your olfactory senses. Trick : before you start, pour a little oil into the hollow of your hands and rub them against the other for the heat up. Hot and oiled hands provide much more pleasant contact than a cold sensation on the skin! Place the oil bottle at hand to be able to add easily to the course of the massage, without interrupting the flow of the moment.

Make yourself available, body and mind

To take full advantage of this ritual, everyone must be in good dispositions. Make sure you don't be disturbed: turn off phones, provide children sleep or be kept, and you have time in front of you (Count at least an hour just for both of you). Dress yourself in a comfortable and sensual way-why not a silky bathrobe or a pretty lingerie that makes you feel good-or choose nudity if you feel comfortable, because tantric massage can very well be practiced naked. The important thing is that You felt confident in your body. Before starting, each take a hot shower or a bath to purify yourself and relax tensions of the day. Mentally, put aside daily concerns: enter this moment with an intention of sharing and love. This little preparation rite Help to put yourself in the appropriate state of mind, a state of presence and openness to the other.

The key steps of tantric massage

It's time to go to practice! Here is a Pas-to-step guide To carry out a tantric massage and live together an experience rich in sensations and emotions. This scenario is adaptable according to your desires: communicate and adjust yourself to each other, there is no absolute rule as long as mutual respect and pleasure guide your gestures.

Step 1: Synchronize your breaths

Sit face to face, in a suit or in a comfortable position, your knees touching. Take a moment for you look in the eyes. Inspire and exhale slowly, together, to synchronize your breaths. This Breathing in duet is the base of tantric massage: it connects you from the outset to the same rate. Close your eyes for a moment and focus on the sensations of the air that enters and leaves your lungs, while feeling the presence of the other in front of you. You can gently place your hand on the heart of your partner (and vice versa) to feel the beats and create deep intimacy from the first minutes. This allows you to anchor in the present moment and drop the initial tension. Take this time of calm for Mentally define your intention Municipality: for example, do good, to open up to new sensations, strengthen love ... When you feel confident and in phase, go slowly to the next step.

Step 2: Start with subtle touches

Lie your partner on your stomach (he or she will be the first to receive massage, you will alternate the roles later if you wish). Start massage with light And slow, oil -free at first, on the less erogenous parts of the body. For example, walk your fingertips with the tips of the shoulders to your hand fingers, or hips to the feet, barely grazing the skin. These delicate, almost aerial touches, make the shiver and awaken the skin sensitivity. The idea is wake up Before intensifying the contact. You can also use a feather, a silk scarf or even simply the end of your hair that caresses your skin to vary light sensations. Observe how your partner reacts: his breathing, small chills or sighs will tell you that he/she is starting to relax and appreciate. Take several minutes to cover all of his body. Trick : Do not forget the ends - the nape, the ears, the back of the knees, the wrists - these often abandoned areas are very receptive to the subtle caresses. This lightness prelude installs confidence and receptivity, preparing the body to receive more.

Step 3: Massage from head to toe, varying the pleasures

Once your partner is relaxed and fully receptive, start the oil massage strictly speaking. Pour a little lukewarm oil in your hands, rub them again and gently apply the oil to your partner's back. Start shoulders and down slowly along the spine With your palms flat, in a fluid movement. Take your time to explore Each body part : the back of course, where you can alternate gentle kneaders and circular movements with the pulp of the thumbs on both sides of the column; But also the arms, hands, buttocks, legs ... Vary the techniques and pressures To pleasantly surprise the senses. For example, after a few long enveloping caresses, try small firmer circular movements on the stretched muscles, then return to an ultra-light touch with your fingertips. You can also alternate between using the whole hand, then only the fingertips, or even your forearm for a wider touch. These variations avoid any monotony and maintain the attention of your alert partner in a real ballet of sensations. Do not hesitate to explore the whole body : feet (a slow massage of the plantar vault can be extremely relaxing and sensual) to the neck and scalp (gently knead the skull with your fingertips to trigger a delicious relaxation). Stay listening to your partner Throughout the process: you can ask him in a soft voice if the pressure suits him, if he prefers slower or more supported, or just watching for his pleasure sighs to adapt your gestures. This massage is given in both directions: your hands speak to his body, and his body guides you in return by his reactions. When you have carefully traveled all his back and legs, gently invite him to turn on your back to continue in front.

Step 4: Gently arouse erogenous zones

Tantric massage integrates the Sexuality in a subtle way And respectful, without rushing. Once you have massaged the entire body of your partner (now lying on your back), you can gradually pay more attention to erogenous zones - Always with delicacy and consent. Continue first to oil and massage your bust: draw large circles around the chest, without necessarily touching the breasts right away, then touch the belly with a light hand alternating with a little more supported pressures of the two inches on both sides of the navel, for example. Slowly approach intimate areas, by extending your caresses along the thighs, the groin, the lower abdomen ... without immediate direct contact. The native very close to the erogenous parts, without touching it frankly, raises the sensual tension and tenfolding desire. Observe your partner: his breath may accelerate, her body try to hide slightly to your hands-take this as a sign of emerging excitement. If you feel that the moment is appropriate (or if your partner requests it explicitly), you can then include the genitals in massage, always in the tantric spirit, that is to say slowly and listening. For a man, it can be a question of delicately massaging the pubis, the interior of the thighs then the sex in itself (called "Lingam" as a project) with an adequate lubrication, by varying the movements without seeking to cause orgasm at all costs. For a woman, massage around Mount de Venus, the interior of the thighs, and possibly the vulva (the "yoni") with great softness, by paying particular attention to the clitoris if she appreciates it, but always in the idea of ​​honoring this sensitive area without objective of performance. The key word: benevolence and respect. Stay constantly listening to the other - a look, a sigh, a Yes whispered can guide you. Remember that in Tantra, it is the sexual energy itself that counts more than the highest point. If orgasm occurs, welcome it, but it is not an end in itself. The important thing is theshared sensory experience and the feeling of fusion that can result from it.

Step 5: Close the ritual gently

After having traveled the body of your half in its entirety, it is time to Conclude massage all in delicacy. Do not suddenly stop your caresses as soon as you believe you have finished: gradually slow down the pace. Return to light touch, as at the beginning, to appease the areas that you have stimulated intensely. You can finish with a head massage If not already done: place your hands under the neck of your partner, exercise a soft traction backwards, then massage your scalp by making small circles with your fingers. This gesture provides deep relaxation and helps to return to a state of calm after excitement. When you feel that your partner is completely relaxed and filled, put your hands flat for a few moments in the center of his chest and on his lower abdomen for channel energy And mean that the ritual is coming to an end. Then cover your partner with a hot towel or a bathrobe so that it does not take cold. Take a moment to snuggle up against each other, in silence, eyes in your eyes or closed, just for savor this complicity news that unites you. You can exchange a tender kiss, a smile, or a few sweet words on what you felt. This time of Post-massage tenderness is precious to anchor the benefits of experience. Some couples naturally extend this moment by a more intimate and carnal embrace-if it is your desire to both of them, let yourself be carried! Otherwise, nothing prevents you from simply staying entwined or gently redoing a glass of water or tea together to rehydrate and exchange your impressions. The important thing is close the ritual in harmony, without suddenly, remaining connected to the end.

Trick : Remember to reverse the roles! The partner who has received the massage can, if he wishes and feels full of energy, in turn offer a tantric massage in return, either in stride after a time of break, or during a next session. In this way, everyone alternately explores the role of donor and recipient, which further enriches your connection.

A journey of the senses for two, it is cultivated

Tantric massage is above all a mindset. It is not a question of perfecting an impeccable technique the first time, but rather of opening up to the other and of leaving your usual routine. Do not worry if your first trials are a little clumsy or if you find it difficult to let go immediately. Over time, each couple develops their own alchemy and its preferences. Do not hesitate to communicate afterwards on what you liked, what you would like to try next time - without criticism, just in a spirit of mutual discovery. Remember that this ritual must remain fun and benevolent: There is no expected performance, only sharing.

By integrating tantric massage into your love life, you cultivate a new form of body language with your partner. This voyage of the senses Allows you to rediscover yourself in a different light, to relearn how to savor each contact, each breath, as if the time stopped. It’s a great way to nourish the flame of your couple and maintain a strong and fulfilled intimacy. So, ready to try the experience? Prepare your candles, heat your massage oil, and embark on this sensual tête. The secrets of tantric massage are no longer waiting for you to be revealed, slowly, for two, in confidence and voluptuousness.